Thursday, December 29, 2011

Baptized In Pink and Blue

God has not given me a shortage of testosterone.  I’ve lost count of the number of times Ashley has told me—in the last month—“You’re such a guy.” I can’t help it. I like manly activities. I’m a sports nut, wrestling coach, war movie fan, and I like to hunt—especially prairie dogs. If you shoot them in the right place they will do a complete flip and land flat on their backs…
…And I’m pretty sure I just heard a few ladies gasp.
I’m also a man who has been baptized in the world of girl over the past few years as God has given me Avery and Sophie as daughters. This is foreign territory to me. I didn’t grow up with sisters. Pink was not a color that ever appeared at the Jenkins’ house when I was a young boy. And princesses? I thought “Snow White” was a flavor of snow cone served at the State wrestling tournament.
My head sank deeper into the pink and blue waters on Christmas morning as my daughters opened present after present. The theme was pretty consistent—Cinderella. I guess I was unaware of how many products could be produced from one character. Disney must be making a fortune….from us. Never the less, you can imagine what I have spent a good portion of my Christmas break doing. And I love it.
It’s amazing how long Avery can sit there and play with those plastic figurines. Sometimes I get a little antsy after a long stretch of making up dialogue between the princess dolls. I think it’s similar to a coffee drinker going without coffee, you start getting the shakes. One minute Cinderella is complimenting Ariel’s beautiful dancing, and the next has her giving a head fake and shooting a beautiful double leg takedown.  Ariel always seems caught off guard; Avery always looks at me like I’m crazy.
I do know that I’m crazy about my daughters.  I love spending time with them. If it means being submersed in a world that’s completely new to me, well, bring it on. God has actually used my passion for my daughters to teach me some important lessons recently. I was giving Sophie a bear hug the other day and telling her how much I love her when I sensed God speak something to my own heart.
“I wish you would let me love you like that.”
He had a point. I’m an intense guy, so I’m usually going from one thing to the next. I don’t pause and simply let the Father love me like he wants to. I guess I fail to use common sense: If I’m passionate about spending time with my girls, and God’s heart is so much better than mine, how much more passionate must he be about spending time with his children?
He is a brilliant communicator. He waits for the most opportune time to communicate his truth, and then BAM….He drops it out of the blue—and it penetrates. At the exact time when I was thinking, “Sophie, I wish you knew how much I loved you”, he whispers, “I know what you mean.”
All I can do is laugh. I don’t know how else to respond.
Except maybe to sit back and let him give me a bear hug.

Monday, December 26, 2011

Will You Marry...

I was nervous. I could feel the butterflies in my stomach, and I’m sure I was acting a little strange. Ashley and I had just finished a nice meal at a Broadmoor restaurant, and now we were circling the lake out back. I had the ring in my pocket, and I was waiting for the right time to stop our romantic stroll, get down on a knee, and ask her to spend the rest of her life with me.

I think she could tell I was nervous. We continued to walk around the lake in the blistering cold as I tried to locate the courage to ask the most important question of my life. At the same time, I realized I better get on with it because it was freezing and Ashley’s lips were about to turn blue. If I hadn’t dropped to my knee quick, she may not have been able to understand my proposal through the chattering of my teeth. I’m convinced she thought I was crazy as I asked her, “You up for one more lap?” She miraculously agreed.

We had nearly finished another lap when I finally paused and got down on my knee. There was no turning back now. I looked into her beautiful blue eyes, confessed my deep love for her, and said, “Ashley, WILL YOU MARRY ME?”

Pure giddiness. That’s what we experienced as we stood by an old fashioned lamp post which had been beautifully decorated with Christmas lights. I had actually picked a good spot after all of the stalling. We hugged, kissed, and did the happy dance as we celebrated our new status: engaged. The only time we could take our eyes off each other is when we stopped long enough to admire the ring. We spent the next several months planning the wedding and dreaming about the days ahead.

It’s been 5 years and 17 days since that snowy December night. Our lives have significantly changed, but I’m still crazy about her. God has since blessed us with two wonderful daughters, Avery and Sophie. Words can’t describe the joy they bring us, but, as all parents know, raising young children requires hard work.

We dressed them up last night in matching dresses—ok, Ashley dressed them up in matching dresses—and we headed for the Broadmoor to meet my parents for a Christmas dinner. We enjoyed a wonderful meal at the Tavern, grabbed some warm coffee to go, and once again headed for the romantic lake behind the main building. It was just as romantic as I remembered it being. Soft music playing over the speakers, hundreds of trees precisely decorated with lights, and geese on the lake. I decided it would be a good idea to show the girls the exact spot where I had proposed to their momma. Avery initially thought it was a good idea as she said, “Alright!”

We had walked about a hundred yards in the cold air before Sophie started screaming. Shortly after, Avery tripped on the sidewalk, spilled her hot chocolate, and started crying as well. They both wanted to turn around, but I was a man on a mission. We were going to make it to the proposal spot whether we all turned to icicles or not.

I continued to push ahead, and I found myself smiling as I thought about the vast difference between the two December nights at the Broadmoor Lake. The romantic music had given way to crying babies. We weren’t walking hand in hand with Ashley’s head on my shoulder; I was speed walking twenty yards in front of her grunting as I carried Sophie in her car seat. Ashley wasn’t making googley eyes at me; she was wiping the tears from Avery’s cheeks and covering them with kisses.

I arrived at the proposal spot first, nearly out of breath, and I glanced back to make sure Ashley and Avery hadn’t bailed on my idea. I watched them slowly make their way towards the infamous lamp post, and I thought, “Oooh how her life has changed!”

I was watching Ashley do something that I have seen countless times over the past few years. She was thriving in her role as a mom. She was patiently caring for her daughter. This is who she is, and this is what she does. Little did she know it five years prior, but she wasn’t just saying “YES” to a life of romance with this hunk of a man (work with me here), but she was also saying “YES” to a selfless life of being a momma—sleepless nights, changing diapers, cleaning up throw up, comforting, teaching, correcting, and loving unconditionally. It’s exhausting work. It’s challenged her at the deepest level, but she’s met the challenge with astounding grace.

Ashley eventually arrived at the infamous spot, and I noticed that she still had those captivating eyes and almost blue lips that I had seen on the proposal night. I grabbed Avery and Sophie and got down on a knee in order to reenact the big event. Sophie’s screams were beginning to intensify, and Avery made it clear that the last thing she wanted to do was take a picture. Romantic? Hardly. Realistic? Absolutely.

“Will you marry…US?”

That would have been a truer question to ask.

Thursday, December 22, 2011

Extraordinarily Ordinary

There are certain things we’re simply not ready for.

Case in point...
Avery: “I want to wear this.”
Me: “No, honey.”
Avery: “Why?”
Me: “Oooh boy…”

It’s easy for me to recognize when Avery isn’t ready for something (she’s also asked me several times if she can drive the car!). It’s much harder to recognize when I’m not ready for the things I ask God for. I’m a visionary. I am a dreamer. I want to see my big-picture plans come to pass…NOW! God has spent the last several years teaching me to relax, embrace the growth process, and thrive in the here and now, ordinary aspects of life. It can be a tough pill to swallow, unless we discover the joy of inviting God into the common and sometimes boring details of life.

I’ve spent a good chunk of time reflecting on the Christmas story over the past month. There’s so much to marvel at, but I’ve especially been drawn to the reality that an indescribable, unprecedented, and exceptional God invaded our normal, banausic, humdrum lives. The creator of all things and for whom all things were created became like us. The extraordinary God placed himself in a surprisingly ordinary position, born as a helpless baby.

When we think of Jesus’ life, don’t we typically think of the supernatural? He was conceived in the womb of a virgin, he walked on water, fed the five thousand, healed the lame, opened the eyes of the blind, raised the dead, and was raised from the dead. These are all true and wonderful aspects of the supernatural life of Jesus. He was 100% God in the flesh.

At the same time we tend to overlook that he was also fully human. There were aspects of his life that were quite normal. I can’t help but think that he went through the same growth and development process that we experience. As John Eldredge pointed out, “Baby Jesus had poopy diapers.” Somewhere along the way he had to learn to walk. I doubt he jumped to his feet at 10 months and started break dancing. I picture him as a toddler taking a few steps and face planting. What about as a teenager? Was he awkward and gangly with periods of embarrassing acne, or was he perfectly unblemished and ready to grace the cover of a magazine at any moment? Did he have to learn how to navigate the Jewish social cliques as a teenager without selling his soul to popularity? I guess we don’t really know. The Bible doesn’t mention it. It just states that he was fully human, and so we can assume he experienced many of the same challenges we have.

I think one of the hardest stages for him must have been in his early to mid-twenties --at least it would have been for me. He’s a man by now. He’s seemingly ready to start his mission. Why wait any longer? Let the miracles begin! Let’s get this party started. The quicker he gets to the cross, the quicker he can return to his glory in the presence of the Father. But, that’s not what we see in the Scriptures. He doesn’t take a short-cut. He refuses to force himself onto stage before his scene. He patiently waits for the Father’s perfect timing. He gets a job as a carpenter and he works. He pays bills. He embraces the process. It must have been an incredibly ordinary season of life. Father, you called me to save the world and here I am building chairs. What is happening?!?!

Why is this important? Because we must remember that Jesus understands the ordinary seasons of life. He’s been there, and he can relate. He also desires to inject himself into the ordinary details of our day to day grind. This is a game changer we when we truly understand it. There is not a single detail of your life that Jesus is disinterested in. We make a mistake when we compartmentalize the things that we ask God to help us with and the things we try and do ourselves. Jesus said, “You can do nothing apart from me.” (John 15)

Avery wanted to go swimming last week. I broke the bad news to her that we weren’t going, and she certainly let me know what she thought of that “nonsense”. The bottom-lip came out, the tears started rolling down her cheeks, and her cry—which turned into a scream—became increasingly piercing. I tried calming her down, but she wasn’t having it. Then, in passing, I said, “Jesus will help you wait. He’ll help you be patient.” I didn’t initially think she really heard me through the screaming and gasping for air, but something must have registered. It worked. She started to calm down, and we made it through the rest of the day without another mention of the pool.

I soon forgot about this little episode, and we eventually made it to the pool a few days later. As soon as her eyes saw the familiar waterfall, she jumped up and down in sheer excitement and said, “Yay! Jesus helped me wait! Thank you, Jesus!” Ashley and I looked at each other in utter amazement. It was obvious to us that Avery really did allow Jesus to help her. It was a learning moment for me. I began to wonder what my life would look like if I allowed Jesus to help me with the common challenges I try and take on myself.

Isn’t it easy to pray when we have an emergency? What do you do when you have bills to pay and not enough money in the bank? You pray. What about when your marriage is hanging on by a thread, or when the doctor looks at you with a concerned face after reading your reports? We cry out to God and plead for his help. God surely wants to help with all of these scenarios, but he also wants to help you with the ordinary things of life.

Speaking of ordinary, I just went upstairs to change a diaper. Then, I started typing again only to pause and help my wife unload the groceries. When I’m writing, I don’t like to be interrupted. I was irritated and frustrated. To add to it, she told me that I was putting the groceries in the wrong place (apparently the biscuits don’t go in the pantry…Who knew?). As I searched for the strength to respond graciously, I was reminded of my own counsel. I turned to Jesus and asked for his help. I sensed him smiling, and sure enough, he gave me the patience I needed.

Isn’t this how many “World War III” marriage fights begin? It starts with something small that somehow balloons into something quite serious. What if we would develop a habit of turning to Jesus each time we sense the aggravation stirring within us? Marriages could be restored and transformed. Imagine the transformation that could happen in every area of life if we simply engaged God in ongoing conversation. (“Pray continually”—1 Thessalonians 5:17)

It’s really a win-win. Not only will we increasingly discover the richness of who he is, but we’ll also access the same power that breathed the stars into existence and raised Christ from the dead as we tackle our daily challenges.

I think this was his plan the entire time: for us to live an extraordinarily ordinary life.

Saturday, December 17, 2011

BOOK SAMPLE

I have recently started a new journey...writing a book. My goal is to simply share what I've discovered over the past several years as God has drawn me near. Below is a sample of one of the chapters. I'd love your feedback.

Jesus is funny. He’s quite enjoyable to be with. I grew up going to church and I had a decent relationship with God when I was younger, but I didn’t know how deep and rich his personality was until much later.
 
Many people never taste of God’s goodness because he’s either just an intellectual idea to them, or they think he is boring as all get out and they don’t have time for him. If your impression of Jesus is based on pictures that are hung on the walls of many churches, I can’t say that I necessarily blame you. Many portraits of Jesus make him look ghost-like. Frankly, he looks miserable; and miserable to be around.

I’m convinced that the real Jesus is someone you would actually enjoy sitting down and having a cup of coffee with. I’m guessing he prefers his coffee dark and bold—perhaps even Folgers! I can picture him looking across the table and smiling as he surveys your fluffy Starbucks drink.

We must not overlook this aspect of Jesus—not the choice of coffee (I obviously made that part up)—but his desire to interact with you, his friend, on an intimate level.

We see this truth clearly presented in John 21. Peter and the rest of the guys had just been skunked on an all night fishing trip. Little did they know but the creator of those stars they were fishing under-yes, the resurrected Lord—was about to make an appearance on the beach.

4 Early in the morning, Jesus stood on the shore, but the disciples did not realize that it was Jesus.
 5 He called out to them, “Friends, haven’t you any fish?”
   “No,” they answered.
 6 He said, “Throw your net on the right side of the boat and you will find some.” When they did, they were unable to haul the net in because of the large number of fish.
 7 Then the disciple whom Jesus loved said to Peter, “It is the Lord!” As soon as Simon Peter heard him say, “It is the Lord,” he wrapped his outer garment around him (for he had taken it off) and jumped into the water. 8 The other disciples followed in the boat, towing the net full of fish, for they were not far from shore, about a hundred yards.[c] 9 When they landed, they saw a fire of burning coals there with fish on it, and some bread. John 21: 4-9

I smile every time I read the story. Think of the joy in Jesus’ heart as he gathered firewood to build a fire. I imagine he was saying to himself, “I can’t wait to see the look on their faces when they recognize me. Ooh, how I’ve missed these fellas.”

It would have been enough for Jesus to simply appear on the beach without breakfast. We are talking about a man who had just been raised from the dead. He went above and beyond. He wanted this to be extra special. I’m sure it was extra special.

I would have loved to be sitting on a log around that fire listening to the conversation. I wonder if their stomachs hurt afterwards because they were laughing so hard as they retold stories. I’m curious how many times their eyes filled with tears as they realized he was back. It’s a beautiful picture of who Jesus really is. He loves being with people. He thoroughly enjoys people.

He’s still like this. The Bible says that he’s the same “yesterday, today, and forever.” (Hebrews 13:8) What does this mean for you? Well, you can know him like Peter and John did. This is the good news of the Gospel. This is the invitation to you and to me.

Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with that person, and they with me. Revelation 3:20

I wanted nothing to do with Jesus when I was in college. I sensed him knocking, but I wasn’t about to open the door. I was happy to attend church monthly in order to ease my conscience—as long as the sermon didn’t hit too close to home.

Meanwhile I was living in darkness. Jesus continued to knock, and I continued to treat him like he was standing on my front porch trying to sell me vacuums. Thanks, but no thanks! I love him deeply now for his persistence. I also love him for the way he protected me.

On one particular night, I was partying with friends when my cell phone pocket-called my parents (this was before I figured out the keyguard function). What I didn’t realize was that our conversation for several minutes was being recorded on my parent’s answering machine. Imagine their surprise as they clicked the little blinking button on the answering machine. I was also surprised as my mom called the next day. “Son…”

This is one example of how Jesus protected me. He forced me to bring things into the light. I love that about him—although I wasn’t appreciative at the time. He was forcing me to face my ugly disobedience. His love for me was too strong to allow me to slip further into darkness. He wasn’t going to watch me drive the wrong way down the interstate.

It wasn’t long before I hit my knees and told Jesus that I needed him. I thanked him for his love and patience. I asked him to enter and have his way in my heart. Since that incredible night, I have tasted of the Lord’s goodness. I have learned that it’s much more than following a bunch of rules. It’s about being loved by him, loving him, and knowing the richness of who he is. There is nothing that compares to him.

I buried my nose in the Scriptures, and I started writing in a journal. One of the first verses that nearly jumped off the page was Jeremiah 33:3, “Call to me and I will answer you and show you great and unsearchable things you do not know.” I took him up on his offer and started asking him questions. I discovered that he likes to talk, and he has plenty to say worth listening to.

The dialogue has continued for several years. I’ll sit down in front of my computer and start typing. I’ll share what’s on my heart, thank him for different things, and ask him what’s on his heart. Then, I’ll pause and give him time to speak.

I realize that by simply stating you can learn to hear God's voice, I have landed myself in the "crazy camp" to some. You see people all the time doing bizarre and harmful things because, in their words, "God told them to." I see how some people have arrived at their "any normal person doesn't believe God speaks" theory. But, do the actions of a few flaky or truly disturbed people really disqualify God from being a deeply personal God? Isn't this the same God who was nailed to a wooden cross and endured excruciating pain to demonstrate his desire for personal relationship? What is personal relationship without personal communication?

2 But the one who enters through the gate is the shepherd of the sheep. 3 The gatekeeper opens the gate for him, and the sheep recognize his voice and come to him. He calls his own sheep by name and leads them out. 4 After he has gathered his own flock, he walks ahead of them, and they follow him because they know his voice. 5 They won’t follow a stranger; they will run from him because they don’t know his voice.”John 10:2-5

If you sat down with me day after day, it wouldn’t take long for you to recognize the sound of my voice. It’s the same with Jesus. The challenge is taking the time to be still and listen. The first time I tried this, I made it about 4.5 seconds before my mind began to wander. This is especially challenging for men. It’s almost like we need a bull riding buzzer to beep after the eight second mark so we can celebrate our accomplishment.

The more I stayed with it, the more I began to fall in love with him. Often times, he would simply say, “I love you.” I would respond by saying, “I know you do. What else do you want to say?” He would say it again, “I love you.” I must have been a slow learner because this would go on for months at a time. He wanted those three words to be far more than head knowledge. He didn’t stop until they were deeply planted in my heart. He still starts many of our conversations with those three beautiful words. 

I’m currently writing this chapter in December, and I’ve been reflecting lately on some of the things Jesus spoke this year. I recorded well over four hundred pages of dialogue, and one of the themes he emphasized was, “Come closer. I have more to share with you."

I didn’t always feel like listening. There were other times I didn’t sense he wanted to speak. That was, of course, a lie. Below is a sample of our dialogue recorded on July 24th:

ME: God, you are the same today, yesterday, and forever. You never change. Sometimes I think that you are less interested in communicating with me on certain days. This is just a lie. You never change. Each day you are ready to communicate with your son. Thank you. Thank you for being a good Father. I praise you, LORD.
God, what are you saying today?

HIM: Son, you hit the nail on the head. I am the same. I am looking forward to talking to you, even tonight. I have a lot to share with you. Gabe, a lot happens in a day. I am not sleeping. I am not like a bear that hibernates while your life carries on. Rather, I am the one who is directing your steps. I want to share with you things that are coming on an everyday basis. You can’t afford to ignore me. Your heart will grow hard if you fail to hear my voice. Gabe, stay steady and draw near to me. I have much to share with you.
There are many good things coming. There are also challenges that I want you to thrive in. Gabe, there is no reason to fear or to worry. I hold your life in my hands. I am with you. Trust in me. Trust in my goodness. Write about the goodness of my heart. I will give you ideas that I want you to communicate. Speak the truth. Let the truth go forth plainly. Let all arrows point to me. I am the author and finisher of your faith. I am telling a good story through you. Find time to get away and write.

I took him up on his offer. I have spent increasingly more time away with him, listening, writing, and talking to him. I’m learning more and more to recognize his sweet voice.

His words penetrate. He doesn’t talk for the sake of talking. It’s not like he’s as lonely as a teenage girl who’s just been dumped and is waiting to unload on whoever will pause to listen.  His words are intriguing and compelling. Like an excellent story teller, I’m usually waiting on the edge of my seat to find out what he’ll say next. Sometimes I’m bent over laughing and other times tears will roll off my face and land on my well-used keyboard. His words are rich, flavored, and personal.

I haven’t always heard him correctly. There have been times when I thought he was saying something, but it turned out to be wrong. Those are frustrating moments. The enemy is quick to accuse, “You’re making this all up. You are one weird duck.”

There have been other times when he has spoken something specific, and his words were confirmed. Those are the best.  I could insert many different stories here, but one of the first that comes to mind happened after I had saved enough money to buy my wife, Ashley, an engagement ring.  I had worked for months to gather enough money to buy a diamond that she would be proud of. My roommate at the time was also saving money to buy an engagement ring.  I was busy making proposal plans when I heard the Lord whisper to my heart, “You should give the money you have saved to your roommate so he can buy a ring.” These are the moments where it’s easy to think, “I’m making this up. You see, I am one weird duck. This isn’t God!” He went on to say, “If you want my best, you’ll trust me with this.”  I couldn’t deny it. I recognized his voice, and it was him.

My phone rang a few days later and a voice on the other end said, “Gabe, I was putting laundry away and the Lord impressed on my heart to send you a check so you can buy Ashley a ring.” Wow. First of all, I had just met this man one time. Secondly, he had no idea I was planning on proposing. Third, nobody knew of the words God had spoken to my heart about giving my savings to my friend.

The check arrived a few days later. It was much more than I had saved.

Yes, he’s like that.

Saturday, November 19, 2011

The Old Tree

Sing it with me…

Oh Christmas tree
Oh Christmas tree
How beautiful are your branches

Our poor tree needs therapy. We concede that it’s not the prettiest tree on the block (we’ll eventually decorate it), but it sure has a story to tell.

Nearly three years ago, Ashley and I set out for what was supposed to be a relaxing walk around our neighborhood. As we rounded the corner and headed for a nearby park, Ashley spotted something in the distance. I saw a smile flash across her face, and I quickly realized we were in for a detour. Dumped on the side of the road was quite possibly the ugliest Christmas tree I had ever seen. A crumpled sign was taped to it that read, “Please Take”.

As we got closer, I realized why nobody had taken the owners up on their free offer. This tree had serious issues. To say that it was mangled would be putting it nicely. I wanted to walk on by, but Ashley had different plans. You could see the wheels turning. She saw something that I didn’t see. In her mind she pictured the finished product, but I just saw a giant hassle.

A few minutes later I was pushing this big, ugly tree into the back of our explorer. It didn’t fit, so I tried convincing her that it wasn’t meant to be. She didn’t buy it. So, I got behind the tree, assumed a football stance, and rammed this poor tree into the back of our car. The door finally closed, and I let out a loud groan. Ashley laughed with excitement.

I don’t know what she did to that tree, but by the time the sun set it actually looked quite nice. I apologized for my lack of belief in her tree restoration skills and committed to being more open to her ideas in the future.

We made our annual trip to the basement today to fetch the once abandoned tree. It’s the same process every year. We pick up the tree and start up the stairs only to realize that it doesn’t fit. And each year you can hear me—face buried in pokey fake tree branches—belt out, “PUSH HARDER!” We force our way to the top of the stairs, and Ashley spends the next few hours fixing the damaged branches and crushed lights.

Why do we still have this old tree? Why don’t we go out and buy a prettier one? Surely it would be a good idea to buy a smaller tree, one that actually fits up the stairs. But, we can’t. We must not. Even with all its aesthetic flaws, it serves as a continual reminder of what Christmas is all about.

Christmas is a season to celebrate restoration. Our broken and mangled lives restored by the most unthinkable plan; our once severed relationship with the Almighty restored by the giving of a Son.

Is God really that good? Would he really do that? Does he really care that much? Indeed. He’s making all things new. He’s restoring today. He’s rebuilding lives. There’s nothing in your life that’s too dark or ugly for God’s redemptive hand to touch. There’s not a relationship that’s too cold for God to restore.

I’m filled with anticipation for this to be a special Christmas season. At the Jenkins house, we refuse to believe this is just another busy Holiday season that requires us to bust out the credit card and buy a bunch of presents. This is a season to slow down, reflect, and recapture a sense of awe towards God. That won’t come naturally; we’ll have to intentionally fight for it.

Why shouldn't we view Christmas from a different angle this year? Let's believe for great things. Let's expect restoration--restoration of hearts, relationships, and joy. Consider the response of the angel Gabriel as Mary questioned his virgin-birth announcement: “For nothing is impossible with God.” (Luke 1:37)

Make it a special season.

Monday, November 14, 2011

Farmer God

I went back to Kansas this summer to help a family friend with wheat harvest. For a man who drives a four cylinder car, it was therapeutic to hear the engine roar of a sixteen cylinder tractor as I pressed down on the throttle. I still smile as I think about it. It was also a learning experience. I grew up in a farming community, but I didn't realize all of the work and detail that a successful wheat harvest requires.

I’ll admit that I came in late and participated in the best part of the entire process—harvesting the finished product. The real work started many months before with the preparation of the land and planting of the seed. Tilling the land is probably far less exciting than harvesting the wheat, but it’s a crucial part of the process. The soil must be prepared in the fall in order for there to be a great summer harvest.

It wasn’t simply a learning experience in regards to farming, but it was also a good opportunity for God to teach me about the importance of the condition of my heart. You don’t have to dig very deep in Scripture before you see a correlation between soil and the heart. Pause and read Matthew 13. God likes to use farmer language to teach about the heart.

“But the seed falling on good soil refers to someone who hears the word and understands it. This is the one who produces a crop, yielding a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown.” Matthew 13:23

God is a good farmer. He is committed to preparing your heart for the great seed that he desires to plant. He wants to see a harvest appear in your life. He wants to see the desires of your heart come to pass. Do you believe me when I say that God wants to give you the desires of your heart more than you want them? Perhaps he’s waiting for you instead of you waiting for him. Maybe he’s already planted the seed but the current condition of your heart is not fostering growth.

Several months ago I was frustrated by God’s timing. I reminded him of his promises and questioned the slow pace that I felt like he was moving at. He responded by challenging and encouraging me with a concise statement, “Clear your heart. Clear your mind. What I am going to write on your heart will be so fresh that it can’t grow and develop in the current conditions.”

He had my attention. And, yet again, he was right. I was the one who was slowing down the process. The soil of my heart was not prepared for the very thing I was asking for. He was not about to pour new wine into old wineskins. I prayed the most dangerous but also the safest prayer one can pray: “God, prepare the soil of my heart.” It’s dangerous because he will rearrange some things we may cling tightly to. It’s safe because we’re probably headed down a dangerous path without his intervention.

As we are authentic with God about the condition of our heart, we take a giant leap forward in the process of seeing him do incredible things through us. In fact, we’ll see the truth of Ephesians 3:20 manifest before our very eyes, “God is able to do immeasurably more than all you can think of or imagine according to his power within you.” This is what God wants to demonstrate through you. He is searching for faithful hearts. He is searching for wineskins that can hold the overflow that is coming. He is good. He is deeply good. He is not holding out on me, and he’s certainly not holding out on you. Cooperate with him as he prepares you for the great things that are coming.

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

What a blessing she is...

The following two videos were taken while watching the Air Force/Army football game last weekend. They were taken within five minutes of each other.






A few minutes later...





I thought the weather in Colorado was the only thing that changed that fast...

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Deep to Deep

God has gotten a bad rap. Many people believe that the only thing God is concerned with is their behavior. Subconsciously we think that God is millions of miles away holding a telescope in one hand and a paddle in the other just waiting to whack us when we mess up. You didn’t go to church today. Whack. You really looked at that again? Whack. You said what? Whack.

God does care about our actions, but I don’t believe that’s what he thinks about the most. I am convinced that what he really wants is for our hearts to be drawn to him. He wants intimacy. He wants our genuine love and affection. As this happens there is a noticeable shift in how we behave and how we treat people. Our hearts will grow cold if we simply focus on behavior modification.

I was reading the Psalms yesterday when something caught my eye. Actually, it was more like something within me was stirred.

”My soul is downcast within me;
therefore I will remember you
from the land of the Jordan,
the heights of Hermon—from Mount Mizar.
Deep calls to deep
in the roar of your waterfalls;
all your waves and breakers
have swept over me.” Psalm 42:6-7

Did you see it? It was the simple statement that, “Deep calls to deep”. It’s the invitation coming from the deep places in the heart of God to the deep places of your heart. It’s the invitation for you to know his heart and to live from the deeper places of yours. The Bible is not simply a book of rules that you are obligated to follow in order to feel good about yourself. That couldn’t be further from the truth. The Bible is an invitation into something extremely good—the heart of God.

Isaiah 55 captures the invitation beautifully.

“Come, all who are thirsty,
come to the waters;
and you who have no money,
come, buy and eat!
Come, buy wine and milk
without money and without cost.
Why spend money on what is not bread,
and your labor on what does not satisfy?
Listen, listen to me, and eat what is good,
and you will delight in the richest of fare.
Give ear and come to me;
listen, that you may live.” Isaiah 55:1-3

Those three verses are intriguing. Doesn’t something within you hunger for this? God is inviting us to experience true satisfaction. He’s encouraging us to drink from a different well. He’s calling us to explore and discover. As I sipped on coffee yesterday at a local coffee shop, the whisper of the Holy Spirit was clear, “Gabe, your deepest desire is my deepest desire.” God was stirring the waters of my heart and inviting me to explore what has been planted there. He's challenging me to trade my snorkel gear for scuba gear. I was reminded of one of my favorite verses in Scripture, “The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out.” (Proverbs 20:5)

I sat back in my chair, smiled, and recited something I heard Ray Lewis exclaim on national television the night before, “God is amazing". I invite you to pray the simple prayer that I found myself praying moments later.

God, open my eyes to see the depth of your heart for me, and I ask you to stir the deeper waters of my heart.

Brace yourself.

Tuesday, October 18, 2011

A New Script

There are defining moments in every person's life. Those moments that make you smile or cry each time you replay them in your mind’s eye. Perhaps it is a song that triggers the memory, or a picture, a smell, or a movie. Whatever it is, I'm confident that each person has experienced defining moments that have strongly influenced who you are today.

I grew up around the sport of wrestling. Some of my earliest memories are from spending Saturday mornings in a gymnasium watching my "heroes" wrestle. Many people who hear "wrestling" and "heroes" probably think of Hulk Hogan, Sting, Andre the Giant, and the rest of the crazed men who once sported a Speedo and face paint. I am actually talking about names like Degood, VanDyke, Lampe, and the other young men who endured the excruciating work needed to become great high school wrestlers. I was young, but I took notice.

As I watched these guys wrestle, I began dreaming of the day I would compete and wrestle in front of a packed Gross Memorial Coliseum at the state tournament. My ten year old squirrely body would often—in the privacy of my own bedroom—rehearse my response to hearing the final buzzer sound in my imaginary state championship match. I would get up, throw my arms in the air, and thank God for the victory. I had no idea if I would actually ever experience this in real life, but it was a dream.

The small spark that was initially lit from watching great high school wrestlers compete when I was a young boy was fanned into flame by my dad. He spent countless hours helping young men become great wrestlers—over thirty years coaching the sport. He saw my dream, and he was equally committed to helping me attain it.

When I was in sixth grade, I attended a wrestling camp at the University of Iowa. In addition to driving me to the camp—it must have seemed like eternal distances driving across the Midwestern plains--my parents shelled out hundreds of dollars to pay for the camp. I walked around the campus amazed at the men I was encountering. “Wow”, I thought to myself, “There is Dan Gable!” I was star struck. Similar to a teenage girl at a Taylor Swift concert, I was in awe of seeing these people whose pictures appeared on posters that were hung all over my bedroom wall. In the midst of collecting autographs, I also managed to learn a few new moves. Most importantly, I jotted something down in a little notebook that would serve to motivate me for the next ten years. In messy sixth grade hand writing, I wrote, "My goal is to be an All-American."

I had a lot of dreams as a kid. Many of them were a little "out there". I proudly announced at my sixth grade graduation that my life goal was to become the middle linebacker for the Denver Broncos. That dream didn't quite pan out. Apparently, the scouts weren't looking for a 150 pound professional football player. But, the dream of becoming an All-American never faded.

Being an All-American is attained by placing in the top eight at a national tournament. My mom and dad were faithful to drive me all over the country during my high school years to give me the opportunity to accomplish my goal. In fact, it was common for them to drive seventeen hours only to watch me lose two matches and come home. Lord, bless them.

I had success in high school at the state level and eventually became a state champion. As sweet as the victory was, I couldn’t forget about my sixth grade goal of placing at a national tournament. I took the plunge and decided to wrestle in college. It didn't take long for me to realize that college wrestling is a different animal.

Halfway into my freshman year, I called my dad to announce I was quitting the team. His response was something that I can still hear ringing in my ears. "Son", he said, "You need to finish what you started." Being in college put me in a position where I didn’t technically have to listen to my dad’s advice. However, he had earned my respect as a man and as a coach. I chose to heed his advice and continued grinding along. I managed to barely qualify for the national tournament, and sure enough, my parents endured the marathon drive to Minnesota to support me. The result was the same as previous years. I found myself beat up, discouraged, and quickly out of the tournament after losing two matches.

It wasn't looking good for me to attain my goal, but I decided to wrestle for one more year. I had mediocre success during the regular season, and although I didn't earn an automatic bid by placing in the top 3 at the qualifying tournament, I was still afforded the opportunity to compete at nationals due to being named a wildcard selection. I obviously wasn't ranked and certainly wasn't expected to do much at the national tournament. To be honest, as bad as I wanted it, I really didn't expect it to happen either.

I remember distinctly how that tournament felt different than all the others. It wasn’t because I fully expected to attain my goal of placing in the top eight, It was simply because I realized that this would be my final tournament of what had been a seventeen year wrestling career.

I always got nervous when I heard my name announced through the booming loud speakers indicating that it was my turn to grapple. With extreme butterflies in my stomach and a less than confident look on my face, I started walking towards my assigned mat. When I arrived, I looked over and evaluated my competition. He appeared to be bigger, stronger, and more confident than I. He was nationally ranked and expected to be an All-American. Most people who knew the sport expected him to cruise through his first match--yes, against me.

 I looked across the coliseum and spotted my dad who had worked his way into a front row seat. Seeing him gave me confidence. The look on his face communicated that he really expected me to win. What was wrong with him?! Had he already forgotten about all of the other years? Did he really expect that this year would bring a different outcome?

I walked on the mat, shook my opponent’s hand, and within the first minute found myself flying through the air only to experience an abrumpt thump as my head bounced off the mat. Worse than the pain was the reality that I was on the verge of being pinned--and humiliated. I half-heartedly fought off my back and considered giving up. My mind instantly started replaying the same old thoughts: Here you go, again. It's not going to happen. Give up and get this over with.

Somehow I managed to fight off my back and even scored a reversal as we went off the mat. As I walked back to the center, I heard something that will forever be with me. It was the sound of my dad's voice as he yelled, "Come on, son. Fight." I can't explain it, but something inside me came alive. Confidence flooded my soul.

I was taken aback by his boldness. I think the entire section of the coliseum heard him. How embarrassing it would have been for him to boldly support me only to watch me come up short again. He believed in me, and it did something in me. The words that carried across the floor of the coliseum and overpowered the voices of hundreds of other fans ignited something that needed to be lit.

The faded dream of becoming an All-American suddenly became clear again. With a renewed sense of direction and passion, I fought back to pull out an upset win, 8-7. This was a defining moment in my life. My eyes were opened to see that the story doesn’t always have to follow the same ship-wrecked script.

I won my next match 10-8, which put me one win away from becoming an All-American. I can't explain the feeling I experienced when it dawned on me that this may actually happen. I got away by myself and prepared for the most important match of my career.

I was nervous but optimistic as I stepped foot on the mat. I didn't have a chance to see where my mom and dad were seated, but I was confident I would soon hear my dad—and so would the rest of the fans in the arena.

The first two periods were close and hard fought, but I trailed the entire time. I was a man on a mission in the third and final period, but my opponent defended well. He simply had to hold on for ten more seconds in order to seal the victory and crush my dreams.

In what felt like a miraculous moment, I snapped him to the mat, and shucked him by to score a last second take-down. My coach went crazy, and so did I, but the thing I remember the most was the speed in which my dad sprinted down from the upper seats, picked me up, and gave me the greatest bear hug of my life. Tears were freely flowing as we both embraced this moment that had eluded us for years.

It's been twelve years, and I still think about that moment often. As much as I wanted to become an All-American, that’s not what I think about or remember. Instead, I recall the joy of making my dad proud. He was delighted, and because of it, so was I.

I am convinced that it would not have happened if I hadn’t heard his words during my first match. I was defeated and on the verge of giving up, but my dad's belief in me was unwavering. He spoke courage to me when I needed it the most. In reality, he demonstrated the nature of our Heavenly Father.

I have since learned that this is how God operates. He believes in you whether you believe in yourself or not. The script that He's writing for your life doesn't include timidity, fear, or continual failure. As your Heavenly Father, He's speaking courage, life, and power. I believe He's daring you to believe that things can and should be different. Lean in and listen to His inspiring words, the very words you most need to hear.

I think you'll enjoy His script better than yours.

Saturday, October 15, 2011

Crossing the Threshold...A Story of Hope, Healing, and Purpose

Meet Kris Munsch.

Kris has quite a story. And he's traveling great distances telling his story, learning more about his story, and meeting people with a story of their own. Oh, and I must not forget, he's changing lives and leaving a wake of hope wherever he goes.

Nearly seven years ago, I sat across a table from Kris in a relatively dark sports bar in Hays, Kansas as we enjoyed lunch together. I was a radio show host, and Kris was a successful businessman who sponsored the show.

All of the outward signs pointed to the fact that Kris was on top of his game. He had two successful liquor stores, a wife and a family, and popularity within every circle of the community. He was a likeable person. That's why I wanted to grab a hamburger with him. I enjoyed being around the guy.

As we sat in the sports bar, I looked at him and made a comment that seemed very random at the time. I said, "Kris, I can't explain it but I believe God is going to do something very powerful through your life." It was random because it didn't quite fit into the tone of the rest of the conversation (or any of our previous conversations), but I felt compelled to say it. Little did I know, but Kris's journey was about to take a dramatic turn.

In December of 2005, Kris's son, Blake, was tragically killed in an automobile accident. Shortly after, he experienced the failure of his marriage. His life was collapsing around him. This heartbreaking loss propelled him on a journey which he describes on his website (http://www.thebirdhouseproject.com/):

"I vividly remember the numbness I felt hearing Blake’s mother’s screams when I picked up the phone, seeing the police officers at my door, standing right inside the tire marks at the accident site. None of these came close to preparing me to walk into that room where my son would lay lifeless. I didn’t want to accept that he was gone – that everything I knew no longer mattered! But I took that step. I crossed the threshold because there was no more denying it; this was part of my life.

This year, after five years struggling and searching, I look behind me to the loss of my son, another failed marriage, and an unfulfilling career and accept that this isn’t the life I wanted, but this is the life I got. Once more I’m going across the threshold to face my fears and to find out what it will take to make some sense out of all of this, find my faith in God, and hopefully restore a little faith in myself."

In the midst of his pain and loss, Kris began to see things differently. He also began to recognize that he had a gift to help others heal in their own grieving process. So, he developed "The Birdhouse Project", and began a cross country journey--to be exact, visiting 48 states in 365 days. Armed with a distinct message and project that brought hope, he set out to experience healing--for himself and others.

I sat across a table this morning from Kris and enjoyed his company once again. It was the first time I had seen him in years. I listened to his story. I marveled at how God was using him. I was inspired by his boldness and courage.

Saying that Kris has courage is an overly simplistic statement. He sold all that he had spent years building, bought a little car that he had fixed up to communicate his message of hope, and took the first few steps of a mysterious and unknown journey...A journey that would challenge him at the deepest level of his soul.

While I sipped on cold coffee (I was so interested in his story that I lacked the initiative to continue to leave the table to warm it up) I listened to him describe the challenges of his mission. He sleeps in his car most nights. Many of his meals consist of a simple peanut butter bagel or a bag of ramen noodles. But, he assured me that he is having the time of his life. He spends his days speaking at workshops, support groups, churches, counseling perfect strangers in McDonalds, and continuously learning more about himself, God, and the story that is unfolding each and every day.

In addition to the physical challenges, he has also experienced rejection from some of the people that he loves the most. Many people have tried to convince him that he's "lost it". After he had sold everything and prepared to "cross the threshold", he had a loved one say, "Oh My God. You are going out to kill yourself." Kris responded by saying, "No, I am going out to live. Truly live. " I guess the two are connected. The only thing Kris was planning on killing was his old nature.

It dawned on me that I was sitting across from a man who was living the words of Jesus found in Matthew 16, "To find your life, you must lose it." Kris gave up all that he had in order to walk the narrow path that God was leading him down.

I left Panera Bread inspired and encouraged. I pulled out of the parking lot, looked in my rear view mirror and spotted his "hope mobile" behind me, and began smiling as I thought back to our sports bar conversation from seven years prior. To say that God had big plans for Kris Munsch may have been an understatement the size of this coast to coast journey he's on.

And I believe he's just beginning.

You can follow his journey at http://www.thebirdhouseproject.com/.



Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Four weeks ago, I asked Jeff Mayhugh if he ever runs. His response was, "No way!" What happened over the next thirty days is nothing short of miraculous. I asked him to share his inspiring story.

Running for your life - what God taught me in 26.2 miles
By Jeff Mayhugh

I have been an unashamed couch potato for the last couple of decades. Up until very recently, my heart was beating just well enough to allow me to sit in front of my home office computer screen by day, and my TV screen by night. My two constant companions were my mouse and remote control. Walking my dog was the extent of my cardiovascular exercise regimen.

Surprisingly, about six weeks ago, my wife told me about her goal to conquer the Manitou Incline; an intimidating, steep, mile-long staircase of railroad ties cut into and up the side of a mountain near Colorado Springs. On a whim, I decided to “do the incline” so I could tell her what to expect. What was I thinking?! Half-way up the face of the mountain, I was intimidated, gasping, aching, and wishing that I had never heard of the “incline.” But, the thought of returning home to my wife in defeat kept me moaning and groaning ever so slowly to the top.

The following day, I limped into church where I was volunteering to assist at my daughter’s youth service. I informed the Youth Pastor, Gabe Jenkins, of my previous day’s exploit. Rather than sympathizing, much to my horror, he suggested that we do the “incline” together. He told me about his intention to run a half marathon coming up soon in Denver, and that the “incline” would be good training for the event. I said, “Sure, let’s do it!” Again, what was I thinking?!

The fact is, I was both inspired and motivated by the thought of joining him on the incline. After all, I would be climbing that tower of stairs with someone who was accustomed to running several miles on a regular basis and training for a big race. I would be proud to be in his company. But, I thought, “I’d better do something to get ready for this, and quick!” So, the next day I managed to jog a whole mile on a relatively flat trail before my legs betrayed me. More than a little discouraged, and after a few days of recovery, I really pushed myself to jog almost two miles. It was more than painful, but I survived.

A few days later, the sequel to my “incline” nightmare had arrived. As we drove to the base of my impending doom, Gabe told me about his training program. He described how he started running 3 miles a couple of times per week, then 4 miles, then 5 miles, etc. At this point, I was becoming accustomed to feeling inferior.

As we scaled the “incline,” I managed to keep from embarrassing myself. As we reached the summit, between gasps for air, we talked about people and movies that inspired us. On the long stretch of Barr Trail that snaked down another side of the mountain back to the parking lot far below, Gabe listened to my dream of starting a non-profit organization called “A Greater Purpose.” My general plan for this charity fundraising organization, I explained, would allow me to do something more meaningful and fulfilling with my life, and encourage others to do the same. Although he raised some important questions and offered some valuable insights to the non-profit world (an alien planet to me), most importantly, he listened as I began solidifying in my mind the reasons for pursuing my lofty goal.

That walk and talk left me searching for guidance, direction, and especially, courage to pursue something larger than I would have ever allowed myself too seriously consider. I prayed. I prayed some more. And then I listened.

The response I got was not an audible voice, rather, I received a sense that God wanted to teach me something before I fully committed to “A Greater Purpose.” Or, maybe He was putting my conviction to the test. Either way, I received a tiny spark of a thought that at the time, I had no idea would later burst into a white-hot desire. The thought was this: “What if you proved to yourself that what you think is impossible, is in fact possible, if you have faith in Me?” With that cryptic question, I wondered, what impossible thing could I attempt to do to test my faith in Him? Then, just as suddenly as the question was raised, the answer came to me…run in and complete the upcoming Denver marathon! The thought seemed so ridiculous that I quickly dismissed it. After all, it almost killed me to jog two miles! Just the thought of running 26.2 consecutive miles was, well, unthinkable.

I quickly rejected the challenge and buried the notion. But as I continued praying about “A Greater Purpose,” the thought resurfaced. Although I resisted what I thought I was being called to do, something inside compelled me to see how far I could push my ever softening middle-age body. The next day, after climbing the incline with Gabe, I ran an unheard of five miles! At first, I questioned how I had done it, but deep down, I knew that I had been energized by the power of God to do what just a few days earlier was, in my mind, impossible.

I told Gabe that I would be interested in going with him on one of his training runs. The first run with him led to another longer run by myself the next day. Gabe asked if I was considering running in the marathon. Still, I resisted what God was doing in me, and responded that I would try running a few more times to see how my legs held out. Clearly, I was still hesitating to commit to what I was being called to do.

I found myself searching the internet for proof that there was no way someone who was a 49- year-old, self-proclaimed couch potato could run a marathon with only a month of training. Sure enough, I went online and found everything I needed. There were scores of 6-month training programs. Digging further, I found a few 4-month crash courses, and even a 3-month training plan for those who were willing to brutally punish their bodies. But, according to more than one expert on the subject, nobody should attempt a marathon without a minimum of 3 months of training. The human body, they stated authoritatively, is just not designed to take the abuse of a marathon without at least 3 months of training. What a relief. I was off the hook.

Even as I prayed and told God that I must have misunderstood Him, I knew that I was not being honest with Him. I could feel Him smiling, patiently waiting for me to do His will.

Still, I let my intellect override my spirit. After only a couple of miles running, I was having some major pains in my lower calves that appeared to be a tendon problem. Not only did I have expert advice, but physical deficiencies to justify not fulfilling what I felt God was expecting of me. But, I have since learned that He has an unwavering belief in me. When I told Gabe about my calf problem, he told me about a place that I could go to have my running gate analyzed and get fitted for shoes that might help. So I did. And what do you know? The new shoes solved the problem.

Finally, I gave in to what I was convinced God was directing me to do. I filled out the marathon registration form online, prayed once more for courage and His supernatural strength, held my breath, looked at my completed registration form in utter disbelief, and clicked “submit.” Let the fear of pain and failure begin.

With less than four weeks until the marathon, I sought advice and encouragement from every friend and credible source I could find. I started training runs of 6 – 14 miles, beginning by moonlight at 5:00 A.M. so I could whip my legs, heart, and lungs into shape before work each day. I needed to reach a peak 20-mile run within two weeks. This would allow time to taper down the length of my runs for the following couple of weeks and give my body time to recover before the race day.

Almost over night, ice packs and Advil became my new best friends. I would run several miles for two days and rest the next day. Of course, my “rest days” were actually “hobble around with aching joints & muscles and try to heal the entire lower half of my body days.” I could share with you the physical problems I experienced, trying to cram 3 – 6 months of training into four weeks, but suffice it to say, it was something I won’t be able to forget fast enough.

The 20-mile run I mentioned was designed to teach me to push past the pain that was sure to seem overwhelming after about 10 – 12 miles. Although it might have worked (somewhat) for my body, at mile 14 of my 20-miler, I found myself limping along at a snail’s pace in agony for the remaining six miles. This did little to boost my confidence that my body could endure an additional 6.2 miles that a marathon required, regardless of what my brain commanded it to do.

That was the point where I could decide to hang it up and resign myself to the fact that I just didn’t have enough time to transform my body for the Denver marathon, or have faith that it would not be by my own strength that I would finish the race. Although I didn’t think it was physically possible for me to do it alone, I accepted that where my strength in the natural ended, my faith in God’s supernatural strength would hold me up and carry me to the finish line.

The enemy worked me over the next two weeks. Self-doubt was now my virtually constant companion. What did I think I was doing? “You’ve never been a runner. How are you going to feel when you have to face your two young daughters and tell them that Daddy didn’t make it?” I asked myself. How would I feel when my aging and unconditioned body simply couldn’t withstand the beating of over 26 miles of hard pavement? How could I actually be attempting this? Again, what was I thinking?

But every time my fears were getting the best of me, my ever faithful friend and guardian stepped in. He reminded me that it is not by my own strength, but by His strength that anything is possible. As Jesus did, I commanded Satan to get behind me. I called on God to temper me and guide my steps, all 207,540 of them that I estimated would be needed to complete the marathon.

As the race day approached, I actually started to believe that I might be able to do it. An idea that seemed laughable to me just a few weeks earlier, was now within the realm of remote possibility. As I prayed and received confidence from Him, my desire to do the impossible saturated me. Sure, fear of failure still invaded my thoughts, but I began to dismiss the fears and insecurities that I knew were being sent by the enemy. I concentrated on my growing passion to test my faith by doing something impossible with His strength supporting me.

Sooner than I needed, but slower than I wanted, the day of the marathon arrived. I felt strong physically, emotionally, and spiritually. As I stood waiting with over 15,000 anxious would-be marathon runners at the starting corrals, I felt more alive than I could remember. The sensation brought to mind a quote from St. Iranaeus that Gabe had imparted to me; “The glory of God is in man fully alive…” Yes, that was it. I was at that moment fully alive, and God was rejoicing in me. It became clear to me that of course it’s important to do your best and finish what you start, but what God really wanted for me was to feel fully alive. He didn’t just want me to train and finish a race. He wanted me to experience something new and exciting with great expectation and joy. I realized it was time for one last prayer before I became a marathon runner.

Moments before the start of the race, I prayed that I would feel His presence throughout the race. I told him that I was not going to concentrate on finishing for the sake of my ego, to travel the distance in a certain amount of time, to beat another runner, or even concern myself with finishing the race at all. Instead, I committed to enjoying every aspect of what I was about to experience. For the next 5 or more hours, I would HAVE FUN running in a marathon! I would revel in the fact that He had brought me to this place that just a few weeks ago, seemed like a preposterous idea.

When the starting horn blew, I launched into a confident, comfortable stride. The time had come. I was actually doing it. And, it felt great! The course was lined with cheering fans as the huge herd of runners started on the long trek through the city streets. I reminded myself to contain my excitement and settle into a pace that would allow me to savor this once in a lifetime moment; my first and possibly only marathon!

With each passing mile marker, the mob of runners began to thin out, as did many of the enthusiastic screaming spectactors that marked the beginning of the race. In my mind, I heard all the voices of friends who had encouraged and advised me over the last several days. The prayers they offered filled me and made me smile while I noticed other runners were starting to look strained.

As the race wore on, rather than focusing on the pain in the various parts of my legs, I kept my attention on the beautiful city skyline, the gorgeous parks, and small groups of supporters who were around almost every corner. As I saw children eagerly holding up their hands to offer “high fives,” I sacrificed slightly quicker routes on the course to move closer to them and slap their hands, calling out, “All right! Thanks for the help!”

A few hours into the race, not only did many of the runners start looking down at the pavement with fatigue, but even the occasional lines of high-school cheerleaders ahead of me were losing their original high-powered enthusiasm. As I drew closer to them, I held out my hand to offer “high fives” and thank them. I noticed that this simple acknowledgement of what they were doing seemed to rejuvenate them. They would start screaming and jumping up and down again. We were feeding off of each other! I could still hear them cheering with exuberance well after I was several yards down the course.

There were characters wearing wild costumes and waving a variety of signs along the way. There were plenty of the traditional, “You can do it!” and “Don’t stop now!” signs. Others included, “Chuck Norris never ran a marathon!” and “Bike Rides - $50/mile!” that kept me encouraged and laughing along the way.

That was something I never expected. I was actually smiling, laughing, and having fun with people as I was in the middle of the most physically demanding challenge of my life. As it was happening, I knew that was what God really wanted for me. He didn’t want me to grind through the day in pain and agony so that I could say I’d finished a marathon. He wanted me to be fully alive and truly enjoying everything that this special day had to offer.

During the final miles of the race, I had an undeniable confidence that I was going to finish the race. There was no doubt. There was no fear. I had finally arrived at the place God had been planning for me. I imagined Jesus running beside me, proudly sporting his new Nike running shoes, smiling at me as I finally got the lesson. Yes, what I thought was impossible, was not only possible with Him, but it was a blast!

I searched for my wife and daughters in the crowd that lined the last few blocks prior to the finish line. I was anxious to finish, but even more excited about seeing them as I did it. And there they were, just a few yards from the finish line, screaming, and jumping up and down. What a feeling! Words can’t really describe it, but if you’re a husband or wife with children, you can imagine what a moment that was for me. I blew them several kisses as I ran the last few yards.

When I saw the finish line a few strides away, I put my hand over my heart and raised my other hand with two fingers pointing as far as I could reach over my head to Him. With my last breath as I crossed the finish line, I called out, “Glory be to you!”

I was physically spent, but emotionally and spiritually overflowing! God had done his work in me and taught me lessons that I will use in every aspect of this life He has given me. Yes, what I think is impossible, really is possible when I have faith in Him. And as I reach, stretch, grow, and travel, God is glorified as I truly enjoy every step, fully alive!

Thursday, September 29, 2011

The Victory Lap

I found myself smiling as I drove home from work yesterday because I knew that my family would greet me on the front porch, and once again, I would have the privilege of watching Avery take the "victory lap". The "victory lap" is what we have termed Avery's reaction to spotting my little white car approaching the house. She jumps off the porch and starts making laps around our front yard yelling, "Daddy!"

Yesterday's "victory lap" didn't disappoint. Avery made her usual laps around the yard, and then she quickly greeted me as I stepped out of the car. She lifted her arms and said, "Fly me, daddy!" I picked her up and proceeded to launch her into the air while she erupted with a cackle of a laugh. When she finally stopped laughing she said, "Fly me higher!" So, I happily agreed.

Our next door neighbors witnessed Avery's passionate greeting as they stood on their driveway watching. They smiled and said, "Enjoy it now. They don't do that when they are teenagers!" Sad but true...

Perhaps that's one of the reasons Jesus pointed to children and boldly exclaimed, "Unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven." (Matthew 18:3) Children don't care what people think about them. Avery didn't temper her enthusiasm for daddy because there were people watching. I don't think she even realized they were there. Her focus was entirely on the fact that daddy was home, and it was time to play!

I am not the sharpest, but I do know when God is teaching me something. In that moment, God revealed his desire to be engaged in real relationship the way that Avery engages me. It's his passion. It's his heartbeat. Romans 8 says, "...The Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship. And by him we cry, “Abba, Father.” (Romans 8:15) The word "Abba" means "daddy". That one word gives us a window into the heart of God, and it provides revelation into how personal God is.

I am convinced this is what we were created for. God is not an idea, concept, topic to debate, or a passive spectator to your life. He is the perfect Father who longs to be engaged on an intimate level. His posture towards you has never changed, nor will it ever.

The question is has our posture towards God changed? Has our passion for the Father dwindled because of the expectations of others? Are we fearful to engage him on a deeper level because of the opinions of others? Are we humble and courageous enough to possess the attitude of a child in our relationship to God?

The risk is that you may lose respect in the eyes of others. The gain is that you'll experience true life. Maybe you'll even experience your own cackle of a laugh as you discover his personality. He's been known to do that.

Thursday, September 15, 2011

Gone Loco

"Be still and know that I am God." Psalm 46:10

Here's a quick challenge for you... Try and sit still without thinking about or doing anything for 60 seconds. Go.

The first time I attempted this, I think I made it 4.5 seconds before my mind began thinking about other things. I am now up to 9.5 seconds before I'm distracted. I am making serious progress, my friends.

This challenge is a result of an interesting question God recently asked me. I was pondering God's long term plans for my life when my thoughts were suddenly interrupted. The heavens didn't part, nor did I hear a booming voice from heaven, but the question was clear. He asked, "Gabe, have you noticed that most of your questions for me deal with 'doing'?"

That simple question had me thinking for days. As usual, he was right. Most of my interaction with God had been centered around the idea of doing work for him and asking about his future plans (work) for me. I am convinced that we should ask these questions often, but I am also confident that he wants more than just our actions and our work. He wants us to stop all the "doing" and "be".

In response to this revelation, I have started practicing a new habit. I sit before God with a clear heart and a clear mind and make myself available for him to speak. I don't think about anything. I don't do anything. I force myself to sit there and be fully present. Most men know how challenging this seemingly simple task is. It's almost as if we need a bull riding buzzer to beep after the 8 second mark to celebrate our accomplishment.

The voice of the Holy Spirit speaks in very personal ways, but he is always presenting truth. This is the identifier we should look for. Again, I've never heard anything audible. It's more of an impression on my heart, or a thought or train of thoughts that enter my mind. The common denominator is that I recognize it as being from God based on the undeniable amount of truth that the statement contains. How do I know it's truth? I recognize it from the Scriptures. I tell people that it's extremely important to spend plenty of time reading the Scriptures in order to easily recognize the voice of the Holy Spirit. Ultimately, they are revealing the exact same thing--truth.

I realize that by simply stating you can learn to hear God's voice, I have landed myself in the "crazy camp" to some. You see people all the time doing bizarre and harmful things because, in their words, "God told them to." I see how some people have arrived at their "any normal person doesn't believe God speaks" theory. But, do the actions of a few flaky or truly disturbed people really disqualify God from being a deeply personal God? Isn't this the same God who was nailed to a wooden cross and endured excruciating pain to demonstrate his desire for personal relationship? What is personal relationship without personal communication?

I am currently pursuing my master's degree in counseling at a local university, and part of the degree program is to study mental health disorders. During our last class, my professor stated that some perfectly sane Christians can be diagnosed with "schizophrenia" because they claim to hear the voice of God. Interesting.

I wonder what Adam and Eve would have been diagnosed with; they claimed they were tricked by a talking snake. Moses surely would have been diagnosed with some kind of disorder; he claimed God spoke to him from a burning bush. Noah may have been the person tagged with the most mental disorders as he built a large ark in the middle of the desert announcing that God was going to save the world through him. Oh, and don't forget about Mary. She claimed that she was pregnant--but that she was still a virgin. Huh?

Maybe learning to hear the whisper of the Holy Spirit isn't that strange after all. But, even if it is, it's quite alright. We "crazies" are in good company. I can picture the look on their faces as they mockingly asked, "Aren't you really Joseph's son? Crazy man."

60 seconds...Go.

Wednesday, August 24, 2011

Mysterious Journey, Mysterious Guide

I have been reflecting lately about how life is hardly a straight and clear path. The journey we all find ourselves on is unique to us, but it's similar in the aspect that it's relatively mysterious. I suppose that's because God has a mysterious side. Sure, God wants to be known. He invites us to discover who he is. His heartbeat is for us to experience his goodness and enjoy the blessing of relationship with him. One of the greatest invitations in the Bible is to, "Taste and see that the Lord is good." (Psalm 37:4) But, he's mysterious in the sense that we can't fully understand him or his ways. After all, "his ways are higher than our ways and his thoughts higher than our thoughts." (Isaiah 55).

I am trying to become more organized so I recently did something that I have never done before...I bought a planner. As I went to Wal Mart to survey their selection, I was surprised to find that every single planner was either pink or had bright colored flowers on the cover. I thought to myself, "Guys must not buy planners." I eventually found a "manly planner", and I've actually enjoyed the planning process.

Now I'm quick to put my future appointments and plans on paper, but do I really know what is "around the corner" in life? Do I really know what God has planned for the days ahead? I believe God is doing so much more on a daily basis than will ever show up on a calendar. He is secretly aligning things for my benefit, and for his.

As I look at my calendar, my days look pretty ordinary. It's easy for me to fall into the pattern of grouping days together and losing my sense of anticipation for God to do something unexpected. We must not forget that God is an extraordinary God, and he is often working behind the scenes. Similar to a submarine being repositioned below the surface of the waters, God is positioning himself for what he knows is coming--and he wants to show you what he's doing. I have been "leaning in" recently to find out what he is really up to on a daily basis, and now I'm hooked...And intrigued...And excited.

Psalm 127 states, "Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain." My prayer lately has been, "God, what are you building today and how can I cooperate?" He loves to answer that simple prayer. He delights when we lift our eyes from the ordinary work before us and find out what he's up to. His passion is to be involved in the details of our lives. Seriously. Try and think of one detail in your life that God is not interested in. He cares about what you care about, and he wants you to care about what he cares about. Eventually, his desire is to merge the two so you share the same heartbeat. Isn't that a beautiful process?

This certainly doesn't happen overnight. It's a daily process of being "alert and aware" (1 Peter 5) of God. Fight the urge to look at today as just another ordinary day. Ask God to surprise you. Actively look for his fingerprints today. Ask him to open your eyes to truly see. Invite him to open your ears so you begin to hear beyond the rackety noise of this world. Trust me, it's good.

Days will continue to come and go. The sun will rise and the sun will set. The path that we all find ourselves on will continue to twist and turn and disappear around the corner. But, aren't you glad? Aren't you thankful that life is not a boring "stroll in the park"? If it were, who would need a guide? If we didn't need a guide we would miss out on our greatest purpose in life--knowing the guide.

"He (Jesus) calls his own sheep by name and leads them out. When he has brought out all his own, he goes on ahead of them, and his sheep follow him because they know his voice." John 10:3-4



Saturday, August 6, 2011

Bad Idea?

I had a flashback to 1996 tonight. No, I wasn't listening to Vanilla Ice. I was actually on a walk with my wonderful family at a nearby park. It started out like hundreds of other walks we have enjoyed together. Avery was smiling from ear to ear as she ran and played. Ashley was looking as beautiful as ever as the setting sun danced across her face. Sophie was in milk "la-la land" as her two month-old mind tried to take everything in. It was a perfect start to our walk. I didn't think it could get any better...Then, I noticed a wooden structure strategically placed across the pond. Friends, you must understand. I am a man who is constantly outnumbered 3-1 in the female/male ratio at the Jenkins house. I don't even have the luxury of owning a male dog. I wake up to Barney and Dora followed by a play time session with princesses. My wife is literally watching The Notebook for the hundredth time as I type this. I wouldn't trade my life for anything, but perhaps that will help you understand why my man heart smiled at what happened next. We happened to catch it on video.





I couldn't help but to yell across the pond and applaud the "courage" of the kid who just reminded me of the hundreds of bad ideas I entertained when I was his age. I stood there on the bank of that pond and smiled as the memories came rushing back. My mind instantly rewinded to the day I built my own bike ramp and tried to ramp across a large mud pool that my friends helped me dig. It didn't end well.

I had other bad ideas that didn't hurt as bad--at least, not physically. Somehow the idea popped (and stuck) into my head that I would look cool in shorts, high ankle Doc Martin boots, and tall socks for one of my senior picture poses. Ashley still reminds me that my "bowl" hair cut from my senior year in high school was also a bad idea. Ouch.

I thank God for protecting me from many of those testosterone and adventure filled bad ideas. I look back and smile on most of them. I also thank God for protecting me from the bad ideas that carried much heavier consequences. In fact, it was many of those bad ideas that led me to my knees on a January night many years ago as I made a good decision for once, to turn whole-heartedly and follow Jesus Christ. I think it's safe to say that my life took a dramatic turn at that moment. Jesus has a way of doing that.

I have recently been thinking about how the apostle Paul's life took a drastic turn on that dusty road to Damascus nearly two thousand years ago. Up until that moment, Paul (Saul at the time) had been a well-known and well-respected religious leader. He was set up perfectly to live a good life--until Jesus interrupted his plans.

As he neared Damascus on his journey, suddenly a light from heaven flashed around him. He fell to the ground and heard a voice say to him, “Saul, Saul, why do you persecute me?”
“Who are you, Lord?” Saul asked.
“I am Jesus, whom you are persecuting,” he replied. “Now get up and go into the city, and you will be told what you must do.”
Acts 9:3-6

At face value it would appear that Paul's life started moving in the wrong direction directly after that brief conversation. Not only was Paul now blind as he struggled back to his feet, but a few verses later Jesus announces, "I will show him (Paul) how much he must suffer for my name."

Wow. Who would want to sign up for that? Paul confirmed in 2 Corinthians 11 that Jesus wasn't lying about the whole suffering thing:

Five times I received from the Jews the forty lashes minus one. Three times I was beaten with rods, once I was pelted with stones, three times I was shipwrecked, I spent a night and a day in the open sea, I have been constantly on the move. I have been in danger from rivers, in danger from bandits, in danger from my fellow Jews, in danger from Gentiles; in danger in the city, in danger in the country, in danger at sea; and in danger from false believers. I have labored and toiled and have often gone without sleep; I have known hunger and thirst and have often gone without food; I have been cold and naked. 2 Corinthians 11:24-27

A person could easily look at Paul's life and come to the conclusion that it must have been a BAD IDEA for him to follow Jesus! Perhaps he should have returned to Jerusalem and lived the remainder of his life as a blind religious teacher. He would have skipped the lashing sessions. He could have been studying the Old Testament Scriptures instead of being pelted with rocks. He could have been safe and warm in a temple rather than lost at sea. But, he would have missed knowing Jesus. He would have completely missed the true purpose of his life. The greatest day of Paul's life was probably the day he met Jesus on that dirty old road.

But whatever was to my profit I now consider loss for the sake of Christ. What is more, I consider everything a loss compared to the surpassing greatness of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord...Philippians 3:7-8

The only thing that could have possibly kept Paul from becoming bitter and disillusioned in those dark and cold prison cells was a real relationship with a real Jesus. Paul knew he was in for a long ride, but all that mattered to him was completing the race that God had set out for him. If he hadn't discovered the real Jesus, he would have never ended well. The joy of Paul's relationship with Jesus drove away the fear of death, and compelled him to endure torture so that others could experience this same Jesus. Paul tasted the goodness of God through Jesus, and it consumed everything in his life. Jesus desires the same for you and for me. That's the good news of the Gospel. We get to participate in the plans of God and experience Him on a deeply personal basis.

Six years ago I left a broadcasting career to pursue a church internship. I remember people looking me in the eye and asking, "Are you sure this is a good idea?" They reminded me that I was leaving a full-time, respectable job for a part-time internship that I was going to have to pay thousands of dollars to participate in. I smiled and reassured them it was a good idea...A much better idea than trying to clear a 12 foot mud hole with the aid of only a two foot ramp. I guess I had been trained well to take risks.

I'm sure it won't be the last time Jesus will lead me into a situation that will cause people to question my logic. I probably won't get any better at convincing them it's a good idea either. All I know is that Jesus is far better than I ever imagined, and following him is better than anything else I've ever known.

What a great idea it was to say "yes" to him. This is actually an idea that will end well.

“No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined what God has prepared for those who love him.” 1 Corinthians 2:9

Monday, May 30, 2011

Sing Hallelulah

Our second daughter, Sophie Elizabeth Jenkins, was born last Thursday afternoon. Words can't describe the joy I experienced the moment I first saw her. I may be biased, but she is so beautiful!

As I held my new daughter for the first time, and my eyes surveyed her newborn skin and dark hair, I began to think about God's wonderful plans for her. Sophie's life is a story that is just beginning. God is holding the pen, and I'm confident He will tell one grand story through her. That's one of my favorite aspects of God--He's an amazing author. He always has been and always will be.

My prayer for Sophie is that she'll be aware of the story that is unfolding around her on a daily basis. It truly is a love story--a passionate love story between the Creator of the Universe and this 6 lb 14 ounce beauty. How fun it will be to watch this play out. I think she's off to a good start...

Here's a video of Sophie's story so far.



Sunday, May 22, 2011

Not As It Appears

I made a call this week to have the yard aerated. To be honest, I had no idea what benefit aerating the grass had, but I still made the call and wrote the check. I have since done some research and have learned that it's incredibly healthy for the soil. In a nutshell, it's the removal of soil plugs in order to increase the water, nutrient, and oxygen movement into the soil. Something had to be removed, so that something much needed could enter...More on that later.

A recently aerated lawn is an interesting sight. It looks like a person has neglected to clean up after their dog since the late 1990's. When I was a young boy, one of my weekly chores included going on "poop patrol."  I believe I became quite proficient at searching the yard--while watching my steps very closely--scooping, and disposing of the "treasure" in record time. I was good...Maybe that's why I never got fired from the job.

Very early on in my scooping career, I remember picking up a shovel and walking to the back yard only to see a sight that no eight year old pooper scooper wants to see. My parents had just had the lawn aerated, but to me it looked like every dog in a five mile radius had just left me a present. I stood there in disbelief. I glanced at the neighbor's yard to see if they were also the recipients of the dog party, but their yard was "poopless." How could this be? Was this some sort of bad joke? I was discouraged.

Now that I'm thirty, I look back and smile on that day. My lack of understanding of lawn aeration led me to believe that my eight year old life just got a lot worse. In reality, what I thought was a horrible sight was actually quite healthy for the yard--and good for me. I believe I dismissed myself of my duties that day claiming that I couldn't tell the difference between the dog's mess and the aeration. My initial reaction was clearly misguided.

That wasn't the last time my initial response to something has been off. I've noticed how easy it is to make an initial judgment on something thinking it's bad, and then placing the blame on God for causing it. When this happens it's just a matter of time before your heart grows hard towards the God who is crazy about you.

Several years ago, I had a relationship crumble around me. I was deeply invested into this relationship and thought it would most likely end in marriage. In the depths of my heart, I knew the relationship wasn't what God wanted, but I chose to ignore the truth and continue plowing forward. I'll never forget the pain in my heart as the two of us came to grips with the reality of breaking up for good. I was heartbroken. I was devastated. I literally took my phone and threw it across the room as I blamed God for breaking my heart. I lacked understanding. My initial response was way off, again. In this case, the relationship needed to be removed so that God could enter and have His way.

I took Avery on a daddy-daughter date a few weeks ago, and we enjoyed some seriously delicious meatball sandwiches (this time it was my pick!). I sat across the table from her and was taken aback by how her blue eyes were shining so brightly in the light. As we talked, laughed, and made a mess, I noticed a song that happened to be playing on the radio in the background. It was a song that reminded me of my former relationship. It was quite evident to me that the pain was long gone, and instead of anger at God, I couldn't stop praising Him. God knew what He was doing after all. All I had to do is look across the table and into the eyes of my daughter to be reminded of His faithfulness. I drove home and embraced my wife with a hug and kiss, and thanked God for being so patient with me.

Living with a hard heart is a miserable way to live life. It will rob you of experiencing the joy God created you to experience. Life can be rough. Life can seem wildly unfair. But I pray that you'll fight with every ounce of strength within you to maintain a soft heart. The Scriptures clearly state the importance of this in Proverbs 4:23: "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it."

The next time you are tempted to blame God for causing something bad in your life, I encourage you to pause and ask Him to give you true understanding into the situation. Remind yourself of God's nature. He is the life giver, not the thief. Fight the urge to run from God, and cling to Him. You'll be in good hands.

Romans 8:28 "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose."